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May 7Liked by Whitney R Westcott

The happiest anniversary to you both! We are the week after you. I found after 40 years that in the beginning, everything is new , You’re so in love and there is much to learn. Then, as you said, little pieces of time gets stolen away for other parts of life, such as children and careers. That’s where the bumps in the road come in. Now, I love the comfort of our life that we have built together. Not having children, it is a different kind of acceptance, but a comfortable one. It’s there were children, I think it is important to maintain a relationship with your spouse. Once the kids are grown and gone, you better like the person you’re living with.

LOVE the chairs! That is one office I wouldn’t mind being sent to!!!!!

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Congratulations on 40 years Claire. What an amazing accomplishment. I know a marriage requires a lot of growth individually and together which takes courage, honesty and a willingness that some people are not up for. I couldn't agree more on the importance of staying connected and growing together over the years. Thank you for mingling here in the comments!

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Apr 28Liked by Whitney R Westcott

There are many ups and downs in marriage. We have finally reached our groove after 45 years together.

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Wow! 45 years! That's such an accomplishment. What has been most important in reaching that milestone? How do you find Sternberg's evaluation of a relationship based on his triangle?

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Apr 28Liked by Whitney R Westcott

There are limitations in each of us the other accepts. Core beliefs and growing together in many aspects of life and comfort in a partners choices. Learning to cope and accept what we dislike in our partner and live with it. There comes a time your spouse is a comfortable roommate.

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Ah, growing together and comfort in each other's choices. Acceptance.

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May 10Liked by Whitney R Westcott

Mazel Mazel Tov! I remember when we first worked together during the first few years of your marriage…how is it 18? Time flies so quickly. We will hit 15 in September (Gd willing) and I recently had the chance to give a newly engaged couple my 3 insights into marriage. They were 1) don’t worry about rain on your wedding, it’s much better than rain on your marriage. 2) Remember you are a team…when you get the last word, it means your spouse lost. Try to work together so that you both win. 3) The little things ARE big things. The reason a lot of people get divorced is that they stop seeing each other. Keep looking, eyes open. When you feel alone? Look harder and see where you both are feeling unseen.

May the next 18 be even more beautiful, and even more blessed! 💙💙💙

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15 years! We so enjoyed your wedding and couldn't be happier for you both as you continue to grow on your journey together. And what sage advice Rachel, which is not a surprise coming from you. I will keep these 3 pieces of wisdom in my back pocket too. Can never have enough insight. Sending love. xoxo

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Apr 29Liked by Whitney R Westcott

Happiest anniversary to you both! May you both continue to put your attention on growing, loving, caring, nurturing and writing this next chapter of your married life!

Also- my obsession with your Little Black Book recommendations continues. The Dali tarot deck is simply stunning! xo

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Thank you dear Amy for those wishes. I welcome them and take them. And I am so so glad you are enjoying these finds of mine. I am happy to share things that bring me joy. We all need joy and to get exposed to new things. Please drop any of your treasures here in the comments or if you have something you want me to share in my LBB, please email me. xoxo

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Apr 28Liked by Whitney R Westcott

Like always an amazing piece. Thanks for sharing with us.

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Thank you Bita! What resonated with you the most or what are your thoughts on the topic? I would love to know.

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Apr 29Liked by Whitney R Westcott

Honestly I 100% agree with everything that you said. It is so important both side understand and respect each other. Spending time together with love and care. I am sure no one is perfect and of course we are not the same.

We all have different opinions and feelings about anything, but that be great if we learn from each other with.

And I love this paragraph as you said. ( I believe that we choose each other as teachers and as mirrors. If we are lucky, we not only challenge, but also inspire and help each other to expand and evolve for the better.)

It is beautiful pice. Thanks azizam

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I sometimes wonder about how much we forget to really cherish those we love most. To show our love and care and thought in small acts of kindness and respect and especially paying attention to what is important and meaningful to them.

Thank you for being here Bita. You bring so much to the space. xoxo

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Apr 28Liked by Whitney R Westcott

There is nothing more important than spending time with the ones you love. Make them feel acknowledged, cared for, and loved.

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Apr 28Liked by Whitney R Westcott

Quality time with loved ones is very important!

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Yes! Yes! Yes!

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